Brene Brown writes about breaking the elements of trust down so that we have better language around it - instead of saying, "I don't trust you." and ending the conversation there, we should have the ability to discuss the elements of trust. And she proposes the elements thusly:
Boundaries - the ability to set clear boundaries and enforce them
Reliability - that you do what you say you're going to do
Accountability - that you take ownership for your behavior
Vault - the ability to not share experiences when they aren't yours to share
Integrity - that your actions match your words
Non-judgement - being able to ask for what you need without feeling lessened by asking for help
Generosity - being able to make generous assumptions
|A lifetime of between the ears shots because I love them|
We have to trust our trainer. (Are the goals clear and the path toward the goal explained? Is the trainer reliable? When there's a miscommunication, can the trainer own their responsibility? Is there a 'vault', can you trust the trainer to keep your stories your own? Does the trainer ride like she teaches? Does the trainer respond empathetically to requests for help or does she get impatient and judgemental? Does the trainer remain generous in her assumptions as you struggle forward?)
We have to trust our riding partners.
|My best friend riding Chente!|
And our horses have to trust us.